You've probably read books on self empowerment before. They usually focus on interpersonal and communication skills and techniques you have to implement in order to be successful in business. What they don't address are the emotional and spiritual components that are the root causes of most failures in business and in our lives. So today, I'm going to share with you the FIRST STEP to igniting your personal power. It will transform not only your business but your entire life and it starts with what may be the most important part of our being - our heart.
We've all been hurt in the past, some of us more deeply than others. We may be holding on to unforgiveness, bitterness, or resentment. Perhaps we are holding on to jealousy, anger, or disappointment. Often, we are not even be aware we are holding on to these negative feelings. If we want to move forward in life, we must free ourselves of any negative feelings or thoughts. The heart is the center of our being and that is why the first step to igniting the power within is to have an open heart.
So how do we do this?
1. Make time to get quiet.
This means getting away someplace you can experience solitude. It may be your home. It may be the library, Starbuck's, or a walk in nature. Someplace where you can completely disconnect from distractions and connect with your innermost being. Where you can actually hear yourself think.
2. Search within.
Ask yourself if there is any situation or person towards whom you may be harboring negative feelings such as anger, unforgiveness, or hostility. Really reflect on this. It might be something that happened to us a few days ago or many years ago. Often, we unconsciously bury these painful emotions without processing them, and like a thorn in a finger, they continue to hurt us and cause us pain. If we are courageous and honest with ourselves, they will soon bubble up to the surface where we can deal with them. It is like shining a light onto a dark cave to see what is hidden there. We might be afraid at first, but when we shine the light we see we have nothing to fear.
3. Process your negative emotions.
Negative emotions do not go away on their own. I have found that it helps me to name what I am feeling. I usually have an "Aha!" moment when I realize just exactly what has been bothering me and why. It is like a weight has been lifted off me and I can see clearly. Now, I confess, this sometimes takes days for me to get clear but I have learned to wait till I get the clarity before pursuing something else. Ignoring our feelings does us no good. In fact, ignoring them keeps us from moving forward in our lives. What's more, when left to linger, negative emotions will usually result in some kind of physical manifestation or illness. It's like they are begging for attention and will do whatever it takes to get us to pay attention to them.
4. Deal with any grief or sadness.
Although I wouldn't consider grief and sadness exactly negative emotions, they certainly are lower energy emotions. Grief may well be one of the deepest emotions to process so it is crucial to work through it. If there is any unprocessed grief or sorrow, make sure you take time to work through your feelings and heal. This is all part of the work we are called to do in this life. It is about healing our souls and becoming whole. If you have lost interest in activities that you normally enjoy you may be grieving about a loss. Be kind to yourself during the healing process but also be cognizant of how long it has been and seek professional help if necessary.
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If you have any questions, feel free to email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. Stay tuned for Step 2 to igniting the power within and discovering your destiny.
Until next time, keep looking up!