Why Your Presence Is So Powerful

Relationships are interesting to say the least. We often wonder what makes someone tick. Why someone gets upset at something we said or did. People are an enigma. Yet there are some things we all have in common and one of them is the need for love. The problem is we all give and feel love in different ways. Today I am sharing on the fourth love language, according to well known author and speaker, Gary Chapman's book, The Five Love Languages. 

If you missed the previous posts on the other love languages, just do a search on my blog for "love languages. It is critical to understand both your love language(s) and that of the other person you are in relationship with. Often we show love to others the way we would like to be loved, but the other person might not receive love the same way.

The fourth love language is my personal love language and that is: quality time; spending one on one time with your mate, partner, son or daughter. If quality time is your primary love language, it doesn't matter what the activity is, just being together is what matters.

Gals like to do things like shop, get their nails done, go for a massage. They love it when their partner wants to join them in these things. Guys, on the other hand, like their partner to join them in the  physical activities they enjoy such as biking, hiking, skiing, rock climbing, motorcycle riding. I have also noticed that men who like to watch sports like their woman to be there with them while they are watching the big game as long as they don't chit chat while it's going on.

So, what to make of these differing realities? Yes, I understand that going for a manicure or a massage or watching a football game might not be something you would like to do for YOURSELF. However, we are not talking about pleasing yourself here. We are talking about loving THE OTHER PERSON. The question to ask is not "How am I going to please myself?" but "How can I please this person?"

Many women have a tendency to devote most of their time and energy to the kids, the house, and various other activities. By the end of the day, they have little time or energy to devote to their spouse who really needs her attention. Men have a tendency to put their jobs first, thinking that by working so much they are saying "Look how much I love you".  If your mate's primary love language is quality time, he or she is going to value your time together more than how many hours you put in at the office or taking care of the home and the kids.

So, friends, today, consider how much alone time are you spending with your loved one. If your relationship is faltering, plan an outing together, a picnic, a night on the town or even spend a quiet evening at home sharing a nice meal. If neither of you wants to cook, treat yourselves and order out. Connection if foundational to any relationship and who knows, you just may put the sparkle back in your love life!

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Ariel Paz