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Thursday, January 17, 2019

The Importance of Reflection in Moving Forward in Life

2019 is upon us. The decorations are down and the festivities are over. My question for you today is "Have you already jumped feet first into the New Year?"  Did you take any time to reflect on the events of the past year?  Reflection is an important skill to master if we want to glean the lessons of our day, our week, and our year. Today I'm going to share some thought-provoking questions to help us all have more joy, more peace, and be more fruitful in the New Year.

So much happens in the course of a year yet often, we don't take the necessary time to reflect and process the events we have experienced and the emotions we have felt. We put them behind us without processing them or learning from them and we miss the opportunity to grow personally, emotionally,  and spiritually.




On a spiritual note, reflection offers us an opportunity to heal our souls.  Our souls are here to learn, to grow, and to heal. If we don't learn the lessons, we are doomed to repeat the same scenarios over and over. We won't move forward in life and we won't have the joy of seeing our dreams come true. We must learn the lessons at hand before we can move forward. Every hurt, every challenge, every difficulty is an opportunity for us to grow and heal our souls.

On a practical note, reflection helps us to move forward.
I've come to realize that no one else is holding me back except me. It is my failure to learn the lessons before me that keeps me stuck. We can blame our parents, our bosses, or God but the truth is, we alone are responsible for where we are in life. Our choices determine our destiny. When we make time to get quiet and reflect, the answers will come. The truth reveals itself.

Reflection helps us get clear on our path. 
Decisions become more and more important the older we get. They also get harder. Each decision moves us either forward or keeps us stuck. It is important to reevaluate our beliefs and our values every so often and the new year is a perfect time to do so. We change. What we once may have considered important may not be so important today. The people we associated with yesterday might not be who we want to hang with today. Reflection is like a GPS that shows us the route ahead. I've heard it said "If you don't know where you're going, any path will get you there."

This is where faith comes in. 
I have found that fear keeps me stuck and faith moves me forward. It is easy to stay in our comfort zones, doing the same thing and being miserable. Fear keeps us from changing. Faith is the fuel that moves us forward in life. It motivates us to take action and to step out of our comfort zones. We must have faith not only in God, but in ourselves and others. We are each equipped with everything we need to be successful and happy in this life. It is up to us to take action to get there. "Faith without works is dead". (James 2:26).

As the years go by, I want to have more joy, more peace, more fulfillment and more fun  - don't you? But first we have to deal with the messes we all have in our lives. So....

Get yourself a journal to write in. A spiral notebook will do the job just fine. Journaling helps us to get in touch with our deepest feelings, fears, dreams and desires. It is a private process we don't have to share with anyone else. It is healthy to get our emotions out on paper otherwise they get stuck in our bodies. Emotions are energy and we only want positive energy in our minds and bodies.

Here are a few questions to get you started in your quiet time:

What did I do that made me feel happy this year?

What brought me joy?

What happened that made me sad, stressed, or anxious?

Who did I enjoy spending time with?

Who would I rather spend less time with?

What activities brought forth fruit?

What activities are no longer bearing fruit?

What did I learn this year?

What new skills or habits did I develop?

What goals did I achieve that made me feel good about myself?

What projects would I like to be involved in next year?

What one goal would I like to see become reality in the New Year?

The answers to these questions will determine our destiny for the next year and possibly longer. Give careful time and thought to answering them. Don't overthink. Simply write down whatever pops into your head. If an answer doesn't come readily, move on to the next question. Some need time to percolate.

You'll notice that most of these questions are "I" related. Often we tend to do things to please other people - our parents, our boss, our spouse - but neglect what makes us truly happy. It is great to be of service to others, which is one of the reasons I write this blog, but it also makes me happy. It's a win-win.What about you?

Lastly, I want to thank you for being a member of this community and for reading my blog posts. I hope they have encouraged, inspired, and motivated you to be the best you can be. I wish you a spectacular 2019 and may this be the year you catapult into your DESTINY!

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Keep looking up!

Ariel Paz 





Tuesday, January 15, 2019

How to Make This Year Count


Happy New Year everybody! Can you believe it is 2019? What are your hopes and dreams for the new year? Lose those 10 extra pounds? Get your financial house in order? Finish that degree? 

I've found that the best way to see my hopes and dreams come true is to set smart goals and I've been setting and accomplishing goals since I was a child, believe it or not. Goals help us form a vision for our future. They help us to get clear on what we want. Nothing is more powerful than a goal that energizes us and spurs us to action. 

If you've ever been to a soccer game, you've seen how motivating scoring a goal is for the players. In the same way, achieving worthwhile goals builds our confidence and gives us a sense of satisfaction and fulfillment and also brings more joy into our lives and who doesn't want that? So here is how to set great goals you can achieve.




The first step is to define SMART goals. You’ve probably seen this criteria before, but in case you haven’t, here are the five keys to making SMART goals. A SMART goal must be:


S - specific - detailed and clearly stated 


M - measureable - must be quantifiable


A - achievable - must be realistic 


R - relevant - must be important to you, know the why


T- time bound - set a date/deadline to accomplish it by


The second major component to achieving our goals is we need to have a PLAN. It's not enough to state our goals out loud, publish them on Facebook, or note them in a journal. Without a plan to implement our goals we will fail miserably. I've heard it said "Failing to plan is planning to fail." 
I organize my life into 5 major areas and create a goal for each of those areas. Let's say, in the area of health & fitness, I want to lose 10 pounds(specific and measureable) by pool opening day(realistic &time-bound). The next thing I need to do is list 3 - 5 action steps I am going to start immediately to accomplish each goal. Action steps for losing the 10 pounds might be:


1. Take a brisk walk for 30 minutes every day. 
2. Ask myself if I am really feeling hunger before I eat something.
3. Reduce the amount of fats, sweets, and salt I consume by half. 
4. Keep a food diary and track how I feel when I eat something. 
5. Manage my stress levels better 
Third, we need to understand the WHY of each of our goals. This is sometimes obvious, but as our goals get bigger and harder, it is important to be very clear on WHY we want to achieve a certain goal, or we may lose momentum and give up mid-way through. The why is our motivation. This takes some soul-searching but when we understand the why we gain clarity about our values. 

The last component of achieving goals is the most important. Without this component, we will surely fail. We must learn to develop the power of FAITH.  We must BELIEVE we can accomplish what we set out to do and that God is going to give us the grace to do it. Faith is KEY to accomplishing anything good in life but it must be backed up with action steps and of course, prayer. 

So, write and share one of your goals with me. If you need help defining your goals, write me and I'll help you out. Here’s to a fruitful and fun 2019.

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Stay tuned for more practical and positive wisdom to help you ignite the power within and discover YOUR DESTINY! 
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Keep looking up!

Ariel Paz
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Thursday, January 10, 2019

Breaking the Impulse Habit

It's a new year and most of us have areas we'd like to grow in. Perhaps we want to get a better handle on our finances or our diets, finally start an exercise routine, or like me, make meditation a part of your day. These are all habits. Habits, as you know, can be good or bad. They can move us forward into our destiny and they can keep us from moving forward as well.

The key to becoming all you want to be is creating good, healthy, habits and unlearning bad, unhealthy ones. Today's post is on a simple but powerful chain of events we all go through many times a day and how to use this process to develop better behavior patterns that move us forward into the life we dream of and deserve!

It all starts in our minds.
We each have more than 60,000 thoughts a day which include thoughts, memories, and feelings. These are sensory inputs into our behavior and actions. These sensory inputs are evaluated - appraised - by our consciousness. This is why mindfulness practice is so important. In order to take control of our habits and behaviors, we must first take control of the sensory inputs that are causing them. This is what mindfulness is all about.

The appraisal process. 
Whenever a thought, memory, feeling, or emotion rises up, our conscious (or perhaps not so conscious mind) evaluates it as either pleasant, unpleasant, or neutral. Each of our 60,000+ thoughts are evaluated instanteously and then what happens? We react, don't we?

The reaction. 
Reacting is usually not the proper thing to do in normal situations. We want to live a conscious life, meaning we make conscious choices including what to do about our thoughts, emotions, and feelings. They can control us and make us do or say things we will soon regret. How many times have we lost our temper because we misinterpreted what someone said and blasted a loved one? How many times have we reached for that sweet to calm our stress or heartache? These are examples of reactions and not conscious choice.

With every appraisal, our minds react with either aversion, craving, or neutrality. Depending on our level of conscious awareness, we will be manipulated by these stimuli. I don't know about you, but that is not how I want to live. I have also noticed that stress and high emotion, hijack our consciousness. We regress to child-like behavior which is never a good thing. So what comes next?

The action. 
After we have appraised the stimulus as either pleasant or unpleasant, and reacted with either a desire or a disdain for whatever it is, we proceed to the third link in this chain of events - we take action. So here's an example, I feel pain in my hip - unpleasant. I don't like pain - aversion arises. I take action; I get up from my chair, I stretch, I complain. Or here's another example. A loved one says something. I evaluate it from my own perceptions and history. This evaluation may or may not be correct. I interpret what they say as negative - aversion. Next I take action. I can either question what they mean (healthy) or I can yell at them (unhealthy). These are just two examples of this powerful Appraisal - Impulse - Action chain that we must take control of if we want to be more in control of our own lives.

What area of life would you like more control of? It's a new year so it is a perfect time to make change. Start with something small - like maybe not replying as quickly when someone says something. Most of us are too quick to answer and don't give enough thought before we do. Write and let me know how it goes for you. We can all learn from each other, yes?

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Keep looking up!

Ariel Paz 








Tuesday, January 8, 2019

What Will You Choose Today?

We all make lots of choices every day. Some are concious and others are from sheer habit. Some of them are minor like what shirt or tie to wear or where to have lunch. Other choices are much more important and in fact, some determine our destiny, like what career path we pursue, if we choose to marry and who, who we hang around with, and what actions we will take. In reality, our lives as well as our destinies are made up of the many decisions we make every day.


Think about it for a moment. Choices about what to eat, what to buy, whether to exercise or plop ourselves in front of the boob tube over time, all become habits - some good, some bad. These habits will either benefit us or harm us in the long run and by then, it will be too late.

Daily choices of a donut over a piece of fruit,  a workout or a boob tube session, a choice to be kind or to be rude, a choice to stay addicted or to get healthy, a choice to choose peace or to allow drama and strife. Our choices determine our lives and our destinies.

The same principle applies to our thoughts and beliefs.
We can choose positive uplifting and hope-filled thoughts. Or we can choose negative, depressing, and discouraging thoughts. We can choose to see the silver lining of every difficult situation or we can allow our peace and joy to be stolen by the inevitable challenges of life.

This same principle applies to our spiritual beliefs.
Spirituality is a crucial component of our lives. We are spiritual beings living in a physical body. Ignoring our spiritual self is like ignoring our need to eat or sleep. We are body, mind, and spirit and all three components need to be attended to.

We can choose to have faith in God or not. We can choose to have faith in ourselves or not. And we can choose to have faith in others, or not. The daily choices we make in this area will strongly impact who and what we will become and whether our not we will achieve our destiny. Our choices also impact who and what others become.

So today, I ask you this question: will you choose faith? Will you choose to believe in God, yourself and your loved ones? As the Bible says "Faith is the belief in things not yet seen". Because, after all, if we could see it, it wouldn't be faith at all now would it?

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Until next time, choose to believe in yourself, in others, and in God and as always,

Keep looking up!

Ariel Paz 

Thursday, January 3, 2019

The First Step to Igniting the Power Within

Are you ready to move forward in life? See your goals and dreams come true? Make those changes you've been wanting to make once and for all? Are you ready to leave behind the past and the status quo? If so, then it's time to ignite the power within. 

You've probably read books on self empowerment before. They usually focus on interpersonal and communication skills and techniques you have to implement in order to be successful in business. What they don't address are the emotional and spiritual components that are the root causes of most failures in business and in our lives.

So today, I'm going to share with you the FIRST STEP to igniting the power within. It will transform not only your business but your entire life and it starts with what may be the most important part of our being - our heart.

We've all been hurt, some of us more deeply than others. We may be holding on to unforgiveness, bitterness, or resentment. Or perhaps we are holding on to jealousy, anger, disappointment, or a strong need to control others which stems from fear. Often, we are not even aware of these negative feelings. The problem is this: negative energy keeps us stuck. If we want to move forward in life, we must free ourselves of all of these. We must identify, process and then let go of whatever negativity we may be harboring.

So where do we start? We start at the center of our being which is the heart. The first step to igniting the power within is to have an open heart.



So how do we do this? Here are five key steps to identifying, processing, and letting go of painful feelings.

1. Make time to get quiet.
This means getting away someplace where you can experience solitude. It may be your home. It may be the library, Starbuck's, a church, or a walk in nature - someplace where you can completely disconnect from distractions and noise and connect with your innermost being, where you can actually hear the still small voice inside you.

2.  Search within. 
Ask yourself if there is any situation or person towards whom you may be harboring negative feelings such as anger, unforgiveness, or hostility. Really reflect on this. It might be something that happened to us a few days ago, a month ago, or many years ago. Often, we unconsciously bury these painful emotions without processing them, and like a thorn in a finger, they continue to hurt and cause us pain. If we allow them and are willing to receive them, they will soon bubble up to the surface where we can deal with them. It is like shining a light onto a dark cave to see what is hidden there. We might be afraid at first, but when we shine the light we see we have nothing to fear.

3. Identify any negative emotions. 
Negative emotions do not go away on their own. I have found that it helps me to name what I am feeling. I usually have an "Aha!" moment when I realize just exactly what has been bothering me and why. It is like a veil has been lifted and I can see clearly. Now, I confess, this sometimes takes days for me to get clear but I have learned to wait till I get clarity before moving on.

Supressing our feelings does us no good. In fact, ignoring them keeps us from moving forward. What's more, when left to linger, negative emotions usually result in some kind of physical manifestation or illness. The body and mind are inter-connected and what hurts one, eventually hurts the other.  Our feelings are like voices crying out and they will do whatever it takes to get our attention.

4. Deal with any grief or sadness.
Grief and sadness are two of the heaviest emotions to process. They both lower our energy.  If there is any unprocessed grief or sorrow, we must allow ourselves to feel it. Yes, this is painful, but it is only by feeling our feelings that they can move through and out of our bodies and minds.

We can keep ourselves busy and distracted but until we actually acknowledge the grief and sadness it will impact us. It is important to be gentle with ourselves and make sure we take enough time to work through our feelings and heal. The heart needs time to heal it's wounds.

Our work is to heal our soul and become whole. Be kind to yourself during the healing process but also be cognizant of how long it has been and seek professional help if you are stuck too long.

5. Forgive yourself and others.
The best way to heal our heart is through forgiveness. We must forgive others and also we must forgive ourselves. We all say and do things to hurt others, and it is usually because we are hurting in some way. Forgiveness is not for the other person. It is for us - to set US free. It allows us to let go of the negative energy so we can move forward into our goals and dreams. Refusing to forgive others only harms us. True forgiveness comes only through the power of God so if you are having trouble forgiving, ask God for help. He wants us to be set free.

So there you have it - the first step to igniting the power within  is to have an open heart. I would love to hear your thoughts on this post. Please comment here or on Facebook. If you'd like to join our community and receive my bi-weekly posts plus a copy of my free e-guide entitled "7 Steps to Finding Your Spiritual Path", enter your email address in the box provided.

Stay tuned for more positive and practical wisdom to help you ignite the power within and discover YOUR destiny!

Until next time, keep looking up!

Ariel Paz

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Monday, December 31, 2018

Believe in the Promises of God and Discover Your Destiny

The holidays come with a lot of expectations, don't they? Receiving that much wanted gift, spending quality time with loved ones, & enjoying lots of laughter and fun. The reality is that things don't always turn out picture perfect; people don't get along, tensions are high, someone doesn't like the food, people don't show up. This list of things that can go wrong is endless. Why? Because we each have different priorities and values. Sad as it may be to realize, we live in an imperfect world and people are imperfect. As the year draws to a close, today I'm sharing on what can we do to better handle these expectations so we can have more peace, more joy and less frustration in the New Year.

Tip #1. Realize we are all in process.
Everyone is at a different stage in their journey in life. We each have our lessons to learn for our personal and spiritual growth. We can't make anyone grow any faster, but we can work on our own growth. It is a choice we make. Some people are too busy to be concerned about personal growth and/or they don't think they need to change. News flash - we ALL need to change!

Others don't want to change. I met a woman recently who I came to realize has the habit of cancelling at the last minute. I brought this to her attention and gave her grace multiple times. She just wouldn't change her behavior. She said to me "It's too hard to be your friend". What she really meant was "I don't want to change for you." And I didn't want to be continually stood up and stressed out by her behavior so we both agreed to part ways.

Tip #2. Accept people where they are but don't spend too much time with them
I guess since I am a growth person, I like to think others are open to growing as well, but that is not always the case. As in the situation above, the woman did not want to grow. Apparently she thinks cancelling at the last minute is acceptable behavior. Maybe in her circle of friends, but not in mine.

If we want to get along with others, we have to overlook some things. The key is to figure out what we can overlook and what we can't.  If we want to live a peaceful joyful life, we want to hang around with people who want the same thing. Some people crave strife and drama. That is their way of getting attention or else they have a personality disorder. I choose not to associate with these types. Life is too short for strife and drama.

Tip #3. Lower your expectations of others. 
The expectations we put on ourselves and others can cause undue pressure, stress and conflict. The key is to realize that our values and priorities may not be the same as others. This takes understanding. I have another friend whom I've known for years. The problem is she is constantly late. I am an on time person and I think being late shows a lack of consideration for others. She apparently doesn't. Solution: don't do too much with her. Now that I know how she is, I can make different plans like tell her an event starts earlier than it does. My goal this year is to accept circumstances and people as imperfect as we all are, the same way Christ accepts me, with love and without judgement.

Tip #4. Do less. 
Over the years I have learned to put less and less effort into all the hoopla that surrounds Christmas. Yes, I still put up a tree and put out the Advent wreath. I still buy and wrap presents and I still bake. Why? Because these simple things are meaningful to me and remind me of the joy of the season. But Christmas cards have gone electronic. The house is simply decorated and I limit the number of parties and events I say yes to. Why? Because I want to enjoy the peace and the joy of the season without overextending myself, feeling rushed, or getting sick.

I've also learned not everyone is in to gift-giving, so I buy less. Saves me time, money, and effort as well as not being disappointed.

Tip #5. Remember the promises of God. 
One year, not too long ago, it was only my youngest son and myself together on Christmas Day.  As I settled down to open my gifts, my youngest son points to a large box under the tree.
"That one is for you," he says as he gets out the video camera.
"Now what could this possibly be?" I ask as I dig through the huge pile of styrofoam packing.

To my utter surprise and joy, there in the box were six cups and saucers from my Lenox china pattern I selected when I got married. Somehow when I moved to my new home years ago, the cups and saucers were lost in transit. These six cups and saucers would restore what I had lost and complete the set. As I gazed upon the beauty of a simple china cup, I noticed the name of the pattern -"Promise".

"You know, people may break their promises, but God never does," I said to my son with a quiet peace. "God promises to restore the years the locusts have eaten" (Joel 2:25).

In the same way my beautiful china collection was restored and made complete, know that God is still in the process of restoration and completion in each of us - to make us whole, complete, and like new. Whatever pains, losses and hurts we have endured, God knows about all of them and He is faithful to heal us and make us whole once again. But He doesn't stop there.

God wants you to go higher - to reach new levels, to do bigger and greater things. Jesus himself said, "Whoever believes in me, will do greater things than I" (John 14:12). Catch the key - "Whoever believes in me".  We have to believe - in God, in others, and in ourselves. You have been gifted in many ways; some gifts may not have even come to the surface yet. You are not meant to settle for a just-get-by life. You are meant to SOAR to new heights and fulfill the purpose you were created for!

Just as Christ came to earth as a little child, let us, too, become as little children filled with awe and wonder as we usher in the New Year. Let us let go of any hurts, unforgiveness, and mistakes we may have made and look forward to a new year filled with  healing, wholeness, and harmony. Let us use our gifts and talents to make this world a better place.

Wishing you a wonderful twelve days of Christmas and a happy, healthy and hope-filled New Year!

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Stay tuned for more practical and positive wisdom on igniting the power within and discovering YOUR destiny!

Until next time, keep looking up!

Ariel Paz




Thursday, December 27, 2018

How to Stay Jolly During the Holidays

The holidays are here and for many it's a time of family, friends, food and fun. But not everyone's life is picture perfect. Not every family gets along. We never know what is going on behind someone's happy facade. One thing that can steal our joy at this time of year is holding on to negative emotions which are fueled by negative thoughts. Anger, resentment, bitterness and hostility can all steal our peace and joy so today I'm sharing on what I have learned about letting go of negative emotions and staying joyful during the holidays and all through the year.



1. Acknowledge our feelings - both positive and negative.
Most of us know when we are feeling good, but many times we ignore or hide the fact that we are feeling angry, upset, anxious, frustrated, sad, lonely, etc. I have a sticky note on my desk that says "How am I feeling?" to remind me to check in with my feelings on a regular basis. After years of being told I was "too sensitive" I learned to bury my feelings which is both destructive and unhealthy as they will come to the surface sooner or later and in the meantime cause us to act out in ways such as overeating, overdrinking, overspending, overreacting, and various other excessive behaviors.

Many times we don't even realize what we are thinking about. Or worse, we project our negative feelings onto an innocent bystander. A simple question might provoke an angry response for no apparent reason. When you respond inappropriately, stop and ask yourself what is really going on.

2.  Identify the root cause.
When we acknowledge we are mad, stressed, sad, frustrated or whatever, we need to figure out the root cause - immediately. What thoughts are we thinking? Don't be too quick to place blame on someone else. We each are responsible for our feelings. "You made me mad..." is a blame tactic. What is it that mad you mad and why? Usually the answer is something deeper such as not feeling respected, heard, appreciated, or understood. Sometimes the cause is as simple as being overly tired or hungry. Remember the acronym HALT and try not to let yourself get too Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired. These condtions are a sure setup for trouble.

3. Talk it out. 
 The best solution I have found is to try and talk it out with the other person, if another person is involved. Text messaging or emails are not appropriate when dealing with emotional issues. No sense giving someone the silent treatment or taking the passive aggressive route. These only further escalate the tension. Take some time to calm down. Walk away from a tense situation if you feel overwhelmed and unable to control yourself emotionally. Go for a walk and get some fresh air. Nothing good comes out of trying to discuss when you are heated. The emotional part of the brain has already taken over the logical. Agree to set a time to discuss when both parties are calm and thinking clearly and not emotionally.

If the other party is not willing to discuss, then craft a carefully thought out email to express your feelings. You have to get them out or they will devour you. You can then decide whether or not you want to send the email. Be sure to use "I feel when you" statements and stick to YOUR feelings rather than attacking or blaming the other person, which is ineffective at best. We are each responsible for our part in any conflict. For more on "I feel" statements, check out this article. Communication done in a proper way is a loving attempt to reach understanding and common ground.

4. Refuse to dwell on what happened. 
Our thoughts fuel our feelings. When we think negative thoughts, we feel negative and vice versa.

Catch yourself thinking. Scripture exhorts us to "Take every thought captive." (2 Cor 10:5). There is always another way to look at things. Dwelling on what someone said or did to us only prolongs the pain. After you have expressed your feelings, let them go. The situation is in God's hands and you have done all you can. Work on regaining your peace and joy and making the necessary changes you need to make.

If your attempts to communicate with the other person have not resulted in a change in behavior, it may be time to take a break in the relationship. This doesn't mean a permanent rift, but a time of separation can give each party time to reevaluate and reprioritize. We need to work to live in peace and if we can't live in peace then we have to go our separate ways.

Life is too short to stay mad at anyone. If we want to live in peace and joy daily, we must make an effort to do so.

I hope this post has given you some ways to process your negative emotions and deal with conflict in your relationships. We all have them and it is perfectly normal but they must be managed in a healthy productive manner. If you'd like to join our community, enter your email in the box provided. You'll receive my bi-weekly posts plus a copy of my free eguide "7 Steps to Finding Your Spiritual Path". 

Stay tuned for more positive and practical wisdom to help us all find healing, wholeness, and harmony and until next time,

Keep looking up!

Ariel Paz