7 Strategies to Guarantee Weight Loss - Part 2

The battle of the bulge is a never-ending struggle for most of us, especially as we age and become less active. I gain 3 - 5 pounds every year in the winter. And every spring it's a challenge to take it off. I call it my winter pouch. If you are struggling with a few extra pounds, here are the next 3 tips to help us all get thin and trim for summer. 

Why We Put on Weight

There are a lot of factors that go into putting on excess pounds. Some are emotional. Lack of exercise. Lack of knowledge. Boredom. Poor diet. The list is extensive. 

The good news it is never too late to change our habits and small changes can make a huge difference as time goes on. Think of how much energy you will have, the activities you will be able to enjoy, the clothes you will be able to wear with confidence. Sounds great, doesn't it? So let's get started with more strategies I guarantee will help you lose those unwanted pounds.

Tip #4: Drink more water
This cannot be emphasized enough. Dehydration is a major cause of headaches, migraines, fatigue, dizziness and other symptoms. We often mistake hunger for thirst. So I drink a glass of water with a bit of lemon or lime juice which helps balance my PH especially at meals. The amount of water we need to consume on a daily basis varies but I think it's safe to say most of us don't drink nearly enough. An easy-to-remember rule of thumb is to drink at least 8 8 oz glasses of water daily, preferably filtered. Not only will drinking water keep you full, it will flush out those toxins and keep everything flowing nicely. Water also helps keep the skin hydrated.

Tip #5: Eat only when you're hungry
Now this may seem obvious to some, but if you're overweight, you probably don't wait for hunger pains to eat. I know because sometimes I don't. An upsetting phone call, an unresolved decision, an emotional dilemma can all make me want to head for the fridge or a snack. This is called "emotional eating". It is not real hunger pain and is a big factor in weight gain. 

Somewhere along the line we learned to use food to comfort ourselves during times of stress. Rather than eat unconsciously, try going for a walk, making a cup of tea, or try the tapping technique to process your emotions. 

As a working mom, I have had to eat "on schedule" for many years. The clock determined when I ate, not my belly. The key is to become more aware of what we are FEELING. This is where mindfulness comes in handy. Check out my posts and learn more here. I am working on becoming more conscious of my physical and emotional states when I want to reach for food. I ask myself "Are you really hungry right now?" "Is my stomach growling?" "Am I calm?" "Am I feeling cranky or lack energy?" All of these are good indicators of true hunger. If I am not quite sure, I drink a large glass of water first and then see if I still want to eat.

Tip #6: Sit down to eat
Today's fast-paced lifestyle has many of us eating on the run, in the car, at the desk, at a fast-food joint. I know sometimes it can't be helped but eating on the run prevents us from focusing on what and how much we are eating. We don't enjoy the meal. When we slow down and focus on the taste, texture, and color of our meal, we are being mindful. This allows our brains and our bellies to recalibrate and deliver the message "I am full." We reduce the risk of overeating because we are more present and in control of our intake. As a single parent, I always made dinner-time a priority; it was important to prepare healthy meals and teach my sons good eating habits, but also to reconnect after everyone's long day.

Tip #7: Cut out snacking between meals

Once again, the "experts" have changed their minds. They used to tell us to "graze" throughout the day to "keep your metabolism going". Well, everytime we put something in our mouths, we stimulate the release of insulin and we all know that insulin makes us feel hungry. Instead of reaching for that candy bar or 3 pm. snack, go for a walk, or drink a hot cup of tea or water. Try to establish an "eating window" say from 10 am - 6 pm, and don't eat outside of that window or between meals. If you feel hungry between meals, you are probably not getting enough protein and fat to hold you so address that issue instead of snacking. 

Extra bonus tip:
One more tip to help us all maintain a healthy weight, and that is to make more meals at home. Restaurants are notorious for over-sizing portions, over-salting their food, and loading up on unnecssary fats, sugar, and additives. It's a pleasure to dine out occasionally, but healthy home cooking can't be beat. 

There are tons of healthy 30-min cookbooks out there so please don't use the excuse "I just don't have time to cook,". Order your copy of my new cookbook "Mediterranean Mom's Family Favorites: easy, ethnic, and everyday meals" your family will love. Over 150 healthy and nutritious recipes from all sorts of cuisines including keto, paleo, and gluten-free for those on special diets. Digital copy available for only $24.99. Simply use Zelle to send the payment to arielpaz08@gmail.com and I'll get it right out to you. 

In Conclusion
I have used these 7 strategies with success over the years to lose about 35 pounds and maintain a healthy weight so I know they work and they are simple to do. You can beat the battle of the bulge. You can be slim and trim, have more energy, and feel great about yourself. Start today with a few of these tips. 

What weight loss tips can you share with us? Leave a comment below or post on my Facebook page or Instagram. 

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Until next time, stay tuned for more positive and practical wisdom to help you ignite the power within and discover YOUR DESTINY!

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Ariel Paz

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How to Trust Your Decision Making Ability

Have trouble making decisions? How about big decisions? How about big money decisions? I know I do. Especially now that I am in retirement and these decisions really count. What about you? How are you with making big decisions?

Personal Story
This week I needed to make a big financial decision. I researched for days. I spoke to multiple financial planners at multiple companies. This morning, I had had it. I said a short prayer "I am going to make this decision today. Lord, please give me wisdom about this." 

As I sat down at my computer, my Garmin smartwatch gave me this message "Trust in yourself". I knew it was from God. Picked up the phone and called the retirement company and spoke with a very patient young man, named Mark, who apparently could tell I was distraught with the complexity of the decision. "I'm here to make sure you are happy with whatever decision you choose. Take all the time you need." Wow. That was what I needed to hear. The tears from the stress of the week welled up and I had to take a moment. God sees all, friend. Every situation. Every decision. Every dilemma. Every hurt. His word says "He has captured all your tears in a bottle," (Ps. 56:8).  

1. Involve God in the Process

It is normal to go about decision-making on our own but the Bible exhorts us to get wise counsel. It also tells us to involve God in our decision-making process. Sometimes I wait too long to do this. God sees the bigger picture. He sees the future. With the complexity of life these days, we need all the help we can get. I've known too many people who have gone off on big adventures and not consulted the Lord about it, and failed miserably. 

2. Wait for Peace

Another tip is to wait till you have peace about the decision. If you don't have enough information, get it. Of course, there is such a thing as overanalyzing, which I am probably guilty of, too. But anyway. Ask as many questions as you need to get to a place of peace. If you don't have peace about something, pause and wait for further direction. God may be working something else out for you. 

3. Watch for the Stop Sign

Stop signs are those warning signals we get that give us a check in our spirits. Like when I went out on a second date with a guy who accused me of wanting something more than tennis lessons from the instructor I had just won a free lesson from. I should have ditched him right there and then, but no, I overrode my intuition and my anger, and gave him a second chance. Folks, don't do this. Pay attention to your intuition and your gut. It is a gift from God to help guide us. 

If you have a strong negative emotional reaction to a situation, it is a stop sign. 

4. Proceed with Caution

In my book, "The Power of Faith", I share the story of buying my first house on my own. I checked in with God every step of the way. When the buyer offered me a lower price. When another buyer wanted me to lower the price because he couldn't get financing. When the deal fell through after the inspection. I kept asking "Lord, do you want me to sell the house? If not, I will take it off the market." The answer was always yes, proceed to the Promised Land. 

Folks, there will always be obstacles along the way when making big decisions. The key is to use discernment as to which is a stop sign and which is just an obstacle to overcome. I hope this blog post has given you some insight on how to make better decisions. 

For Reflection

Are you facing a big decision now? Have you taken it to the Lord? Have you been quiet enough to hear his answer? Are you paying attention to any stop signs that have shown up along the way? Do leave a comment and let us know. 

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Keep looking up!

Ariel Paz 

7 Simple Strategies to Guarantee Weight Loss - Part 1

Summer is nearly upon us. Are you ready for swimsuit time? Don't let a few extra pounds hold you back from the beach, the pool, and the fun. In today's post, I am sharing some tips to help us all shed that extra weight this year, get healthy, and look our best. 

Did you know more than one third of U.S. adults are obese? Our fast-paced gotta-get-more-done-now lifestyle has led to a deprioritization of mealtimes. We eat on the run, grab a coffee at Starbuck's for breakfast, snack on a donut at break, and then take the kids to a fast-food joint for dinner because of jam-packed schedules. Or we exercise like crazy and then think we have free license to eat anything we want. Not so fast, friend. 

As we age, excess weight can keep us from doing things we love. It also affects the pocketbook. Did you know medical expenses for obese people are $1429 more per year than for a normal weight person? As a gal who has lost a total of 35 pounds over my lifetime, and kept it off, in this two part series, I am sharing six simple tips I use to help maintain a healthy weight. But first, here's what prompted me to write this post.

Personal Story
Last weekend, I was out with a new girlfriend who is about my age, perhaps a few years younger. If I had to guess, she's probably about thirty pounds or more overweight which puts her into the obese category. I parked the car in the garage and we headed to the main entrance for a night of salsa dancing. As we're walking, she says "Dinner time," and pulls something wrapped in foil out of her purse and begins to chow down. What I wanted to tell her is that this behavior is conducive to weight gain, but I kept my mouth shut. Don't let this be you.

So here we go with my first three tips to help you lose that unhealthy baggage, have more energy, and feel better about yourself.

Tip #1: Eat smaller portions
Everything these days seems to be super-sized, from burgers to televisions. Unless we want our bodies to be super-sized we need to go against the tide and realize bigger is not always better, particularly when it comes to portion sizes. A serving of meat, fish, or chicken should be about the size of our palm, which is about 4 ounces. We want to feel pleasantly full but not stuffed when we finish our meal. Instead of a dinner-size plate, start using the salad plates instead. 

Tip #2: Be more active
Physical activity is even more important as we age. We have to keep moving somehow someway. Have done with the excuse about not liking to exercise. There are so many ways to exercise and have fun. One of the easiest and cheapest forms is to take a walk. Walking is a weight-bearing exercise that prevents bone loss.

Put on a pair of supportive shoes, grab a friend or a loved one, and head outside. A brisk 1 - 2 mile walk everyday will do wonders for you. At lunch time, get away from the desk, clear your head, and get some fresh air. If you want more, pick up the pace to a jog. If your joints can take it, jogging is a great cardiovascular exercise that gets the happy hormones, known as endorphins, circulating. You will burn more calories, stoke your metabolism, and strengthen your heart.

Just because we are getting older doesn't mean we have to become a couch potato. Three of my favorite activities are walking, yoga, and pilates. Nothing makes me feel better than a good workout, particularly if it's outside. You can also try working out at home with light weights to keep up your bone mass. Biking and swimming are other options but remember they are not weight-bearing so you'll have to incorporate another exercise to keep from losing bone mass.

Do something to get moving every day until it becomes a habit. Not only will your body thank you but your brain will too!

Tip #3: Cut back on unhealthy fats, sugar, and salt.
As an ex-aerobics instructor, I learned about nutrition, diet, and calories. Since those days, however, the dietary guidelines have done an about face. Then it was all about low-fat this and sugar-free that. Since then, we now know more about the dangers of too many carbs and not enough good fats in our diet. Obesity and diabetes have sky-rocketed due to eating too many carbohydrates. The old thinking that fat (cholesterol) causes heart attacks is out the window. Now the focus is on triglycerides and sugars. 

Quick nutrition lesson here. Fats are found mostly in animal products such as meat, dairy, and cheese. They also are in oils, nuts, and seeds and seed oils such as canola and corn oil, which are highly chemically processed and you should avoid. To limit unhealthy saturated fats, avoid fried foods, fast-food, ice cream, pre-made packaged or frozen products, and creamy salad dressings and sauces such as ranch dressing and alfredo sauce. 

Check the labels and notice the number of saturated fat grams per serving. If you're not used to doing this, get ready for a rude awakening. Fat is not the enemy however. Healthy fats such as olive oil, avocado oil, and coconut oil are good for you. The brain is made up of 60% fat, so it needs healthy fats to do its job. Olive oil, coconut oil, sardines, salmon, and mackerel all contain heart-healthy oils but eat them in moderation if you want to lose the weight. Now let's talk about sugar.

Experts say sugar is our #1 enemy. Sugars come from anything that is not a protein or a fat which include alcohol, bread, cereal, potatoes, grains, cakes, candy, donuts, etc. Sugar wears many disguises so it is important to be aware of where these simple carbohydrates lurk. 

I overheard a woman at the pool the other day comparing lettuce and watermelon. She, too, is overweight. She was talking about how much she loves watermelon. True, lettuce and watermelon are both mostly water, however, watermelon is very high in sugar, rating 72 out of 100 on the glycemic index. So if you're downing it in large quantities, remember the body still needs to produce insulin to digest fruit sugars the same as the sugar in cakes and cookies. Some other sources of sugar you might not be aware of are alcohol, dried fruit such as raisens, figs, dates, and some energy drinks. Eating too many carbohydrates can lead to diabetes and obesity. Now let's talk about salt.

The average American consumes too much salt.  Packaged and pre-made foods are loaded with salt aka sodium. Most restaurants over-salt foods. Why? Because salt, like sugar, makes you want to eat more. Ever stopped at half a bag of popcorn at the movies? Not me. Too much salt contributes to high blood pressure and our blood pressure naturally goes up as we age. It can also cause bouts of dizziness and vertigo. 

Instead of using salt to flavor food, I have a whole selection of herbs and spices. Fresh parsley, ginger, dill, onion, and garlic are potent anti-inflammatory seasonings and packed full of vitamins and good stuff. Salt like sugar is a habit.

Our taste buds become accustomed to sweet and salty foods, but they can be retrained. Use lemon and lime to flavor fish and meat. Try Herbes de Provence or a no salt garlic herb seasoning like Mrs. Dash. If you are in the habit of salting your food before you taste it, stop putting the salt and pepper shaker on the dinner table. You'll get tired of getting up to get it and soon break the habit.

For Reflection
What health concern would you like to conquer? Which one of these tips will you apply this week? Do write and let me know how it goes for you. Stay tuned for part 2 next week when I'll share the next 3 practical tips to help you beat the battle of the bulge. 

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Until next time, stay tuned for more positive and practical wisdom to help you ignite the power within and discover YOUR DESTINY!

And remember,  keep looking up!

Ariel Paz

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4 Practical Ways to Have More Joy

There's a lot going on in our lives and in the world that can steal our peace and our joy, like family, work, health issues, the economy, you name it. There is, however, one thing we can do to stay positive and that is what we will talk about in this week's post. But first let's take a look at the brain. 

The Brain's Negativity Bias 

Did you know our brains have a bias for negativity? This means we naturally pay more attention to negative thoughts, emotions, and events. We bring up the negative past. We worry about "what could happen" in the future. We dredge up unhappy past events and relive them in the present moment stealing our joy and our peace yet again. This bias explains why news coverage is predominantly negative. The media uses this psychological tendency to grasp and focus our attention. It's like a sabotage of our minds and we need to be on guard against it. 

What to Do

Now I am not saying ignore the events of the world or don't watch the news, although some people choose to do just that. What I am saying is that we must realize the impact of the world and the media on our thoughts, emotions and actions. This all means we have to make a conscious effort to keep a positive mental attitude. It is another area where mindfulness can serve us. For a better understanding of how the brain works, some examples of negative bias, and some interesting TEDTalks, check out this link. 

The good news is there are some things we can do to fight against this overwhelming negativity to keep our peace and our joy.

                                    

                                    

                                

Here are 4 tips to help you develop an attitude of gratitude:

1. Appreciate the Every Day Stuff 

Often we take for granted so many things like being able to go out to dinner with friends or family, our water supply, full grocery aisles, our sight, our health, our bodies, even our jobs. My hope is that the pandemic helped us all become more grateful for the every day stuff we usually take for granted. 

I did a guided gratitude meditation this morning and it was so uplifting. The leader reminded us to be grateful for our food and the people who grow it, for our grocery stores, for all the people who work to support us in life. 

Personally

I am thankful that the sun was shining through my windows when I woke up this morning. I am thankful my body is feeling good enough to get back to Pilates classes. I am thankful I am able to write these blog posts so I can be of service to others.

I am thankful for the ability to cook and make nice meals. (Shameless plug for my Mediterranean cookbook :) Today I am making chimichurri chicken and guacamole. I am thankful I could afford to replace my 20+ year old HVAC system as they are coming tomorrow for the spring inspection. I am thankful my son moved back to Maryland after 12 years in Texas. I am thankful I can still move, walk, & dance at my age. Are there tough things in life? For sure. As someone said to me yesterday "It's always something." And it is in those times that we really have to be mindful of what we focus on. 

2. Start a Gratitude Tradition 

There are many ways to become more conscious of our blessings. One is gratitude traditions. 

A tradition I started at my house many years ago was to put out a small basket with a pad of paper and a pen next to it on the first of November. The basket is known as the "Blessing Basket". Each day in the month of November, each member of the household and whoever comes into my home that day is asked to write down one thing for which they are grateful for and put it in the basket. I like to see how people have to stop and think before they find something to write down. 

It can be anything, but the idea is to become more aware of the many blessings we each have on a daily basis. Then on Thanksgiving Day, we read all the slips of paper. They are anonymous of course, but it makes us realize how truly we are blessed despite the challenges we are all going through. 

In our house, there are always one or two blessings that make everyone laugh. One year, my youngest son wrote "I am thankful for pressure or I wouldn't get anything done." Now there's a different perspective. 

                        
                   

3. Appreciate Others
Everyone wants to be appreciated and valued. Too often we take people for granted - our parents, our spouse, our friends, the people who serve us. Take time to tell someone how much you appreciate them today. Make someone feel valued. Thank people for the little things. When we are thankful, we show God we appreciate the blessings and people we have been given and we open the door for more abundance to flow to us. 

A simple complement may turn someone's day around. We never know what people are going through. I make a habit of complementing men on their ties or shirt. I notice when someone has been working out or got a new haircut. I complement women on their hair, their outfit, their nails. I thank the customer service rep no matter if they have been helpful or not. I try to give a bigger tip than is required. When I see a smile on someone's face, I know I have been successful in lifting them up and that increases not only their joy level, but mine as well.  

My latest thing is to not leave someone upset or down. This is not an easy thing to do especially when they or a situation has caused me a lot of aggravation but what good is it to leave someone on a bad note? If the conversation goes south or if I have to bring up a sensitive subject, I try to add an up note by thanking them, making a joke, or somehow turning to a more positive topic. I get off the phone feeling good about myself as a human being who has not caused another human being to suffer. 

4. Recognize Your Blessings 
It's easy to take people and things for granted. We get used to having them around, having food in the grocery store aisles, being free to travel, but when a crisis such as the pandemic or some other crisis hits, it gets our attention. As in the case of the Covid pandemic, we no longer had the ability or the freedom to get together with family, travel, or find full grocery aisles.  Let's not forget the lessons that crisis taught us. 

These days we are fighting inflation and speaking of groceries, everything has gone up, including gas, eggs, rent, and the price of a haircut. Life has its challenges, that is for sure and it is up to us to decide what we will focus on - the positives or the negatives. If we want to remain joyful, we will choose the former. 

It is a choice we have every moment of every day. Abraham Lincoln once said "Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be." 

Most of all, I am thankful for the love, grace, and constant mercy of God. He has brought me through so much and so I am devoting the rest of my life to sharing that love, grace, and mercy with you through this blog and writing books. 

For Reflection

What everyday things are you thankful for? By taking note of them on a daily basis, we train our brains and our neural pathways slowly but surely to dwell more on our blessings instead of our woes. A positive focus also helps alleviate anxiety, depression, and loneliness. Remember - what you focus on gets magnified. 

If you want to feel more joy on a daily basis, here are some tips to help you get started. Every night before going to bed, name 3 things you are grateful for. I say them out loud or write them in my journal. Gratitude increases our energy and our joy so start and end each day by giving thanks for something or someone in your life. 

When we learn to develop an "attitude of gratitude", our outlook on life changes and we are better able to handle the difficult circumstances of life when they arise. This is why the Apostle Paul encourages us "In all things, give thanks" (1 Thess 5:18). There is always a silver lining to life's challenges. 

If you enjoyed this post and would like to join our community, enter your email address in the box provided to the right. You will also receive a copy of my free e-guide entitled "7 Steps to Finding Your Spiritual Path".  

Also, check out my newest ebook, the 3rd in the series "Ignite the Power Within: 10 Steps to Supercharge Your Spiritual Growth". In it I share ten steps that will help you grow spiritually, become more mindful, and have more peace and joy. Do leave a review when you're done and pass it on to a friend. Here is a link to the collection. Do leave an honest review wherever you buy my books. 

Until next time, remember: you are blessed to be a blessing.

As always,

Keep looking up!

Ariel Paz

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How to Craft a Life You Love

Spring is officially here and it's a great time to declutter. Let's face it. Most of us have too much - too much stuff, too many projects, too much activity. If we are honest with ourselves, we will admit it. We pack too much into every minute, every day. As a result, we end up stressed and overwhelmed. We don't get enough sleep and our immune system falters. Then we get sick. We neglect our relationships, our bodies, and our spiritual growth. Spring reminds us there is always another opportunity to start anew, to grow, and to blossom. 

It's Not Totally Our Fault

We live in a non-stop world. The pace is frenetic and the world constantly barrages us with news, noise, and negativity. It's too easy to get sucked up in the whirlpool of it all; a downward spiral of never ending things to do, places to go, and stuff to take care of resulting in constant frenetic activity, exhaustion, and very little rest, reflection or true peace.

There is an Answer

I know you've heard this phrase, and it is applicable to so many areas of our lives but it seems to have disappeared from mainstream society, especially here in the United States. One principle that we all know but often forget to implement and it is this: keep it simple. 

                                      

Start With the Basics 

Like your wardrobe. Is your closet packed so full you really don't know what you have in there? Time to get rid of some stuff. What haven't you worn in the past year? What don't you feel good in? What makes you look fat, old, or dated? Chuck it - give it to a friend, Goodwill, or a shelter.

Next move on to your house. Same idea. Start with one room at a time.  How about the kitchen, the fridge, and the pots and pans? Every year around early spring, I get this urge to clean and declutter. I am very selective before I buy anything that is going to sit on my kitchen counter or that has only one use. 

Recent Personal Experience

I have been looking for a new toaster oven. Mine is over 10 years old. Does it still work? Yes, but it looks a bit ratty. So on a recent shopping excursion to Costco (one of my fav places), I spied a spiffy shiny multi-purpose toaster/air fry oven. 

Well, I got it home (and bruised my arm because it was so heavy). Unpacked all the various pieces for the different functions, and set it on my kitchen counter. It was too big to fit in a cabinet. I read the cookbook that came with it to see what all it could make. Not impressed. I already have an air fryer setting in my new GE oven. 

Well, long story short. I woke up the next day and saw this big black appliance taking up space on my kitchen counter and thought "Nope, it's too big. It's going back to Costco" and that was that. 

Do You Really Need It?

If we want to declutter our space and our life, we have to get really clear on our priorities. What is truly important? Do you really need all those items to clean, dust, and insure? When was the last time you used whatever? My criteria is if I don't love it and use it, I chuck it. Ok, I get it. Some things have sentimental value. Keep one or two and donate the rest. Live in today instead of the past. Today is a gift, that is why they call it the present. Enjoy it.

Clutter Hinders our focus. 

I can't stand clutter. It smothers me. I need space and light. Stuff seems to multiply like rabbits: gifts from friends we don't need, use, or want, old items we are saving for some sentimental reason, books, records, and photo albums we rarely even look at or listen to. Live in the present and have done with old stuff from the past. Chances are pretty darn good your kids or your relatives aren't going to want anything old you may be saving anyway.

Look at Jesus. 
How much stuff did he have? Did he have to schedule everything in a calendar? He made time for people, healing, and speaking words of faith, forgiveness, and encouragement. When we are ruled by the stuff of this world, what time do we have for the things that really matter? Things that will last into eternity? "Seek ye first the kingdom of God, and all these things shall be added unto you." (Matt 6:33). 

When we declutter our lives and get rid of stuff that no longer bears fruit or serves us, we make room for God to bring in something new. Like preparing for the birth of a new baby, we must make space for the new if we want to grow and move forward in life. 

For Reflection

What are you holding on to that no longer serves its purpose? It may be material possessions but it could also be old patterns of thinking that clutter our mind and prevent us from seeing life in new ways. Simplify your life and see what new thing shows up. I can't wait to hear from you!

If you enjoyed this post and would like a little help prioritizing your life while having fun at the same time, check out my ebook entitled "Take Back Your Life: 5 Keys to Reclaiming Your Personal Power."  Life can be simplified so you can have more peace, more power, and more joy. And when those extra challenges come up, you won't get so stressed out because you have your priorities straight. Order your copy today at your favorite online bookseller. 

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Stay tuned for more positive and practical wisdom to help you ignite the power within and discover YOUR DESTINY!

Until next time, keep looking up!

Ariel Paz

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6 Easy Ways to Get Your Joy Back - Part 2

How are you feeling this morning, friend? Are you feeling joyful? Joy is a fruit of the Spirit and it is different from feeling happy. Happiness is based on external circumstances and is fleeting. Joy is an inside job that comes from God. Many people confuse the two. This week I'm sharing 3 more steps to getting our joy back. 

Check Your Joy Meter
How high is your joy meter today? High, low, or medium? Things can happen in a minute that can steal our joy, which is where prayer, mindfulness, and faith come in. It's a question of being aware of when something irritates us and then making a mindful decision whether we are going to let it get to us. 

Joy flows in and through us on a daily basis but we must make a conscious decision to keep our joy and not get aggravated at every little thing: the elderly mom, the rebellious kids, the traffic, the boss, the list that stresses us is endless. 

Today I am sharing the next 3 tips as promised. If you missed the first 3 tips for getting your joy back, here is the post again. 

                                               

Tip #4: Pay attention to your thoughts. 
Here's a quick mindfulness practice I do every morning to get in the right frame of mind. As soon as my eyes open, I declare this verse - out loud:  "This is the day the Lord has made and I will rejoice and be glad in it." (Ps. 118:24). Notice the emphasis on the words "I will". This indicates I am making a conscious DECISION to be joyful. We must be deliberate about our frame of mind, if we want to stay joyful on a daily basis and into our later years. 

Do you find yourself dwelling on the same issue or person for days or nights on end? Picture a car stuck in a ditch with the wheels whirling and whirling. This is what our minds are doing when we ruminate or over-think and it is a joy-stealer. When we spin our mental wheels trying to figure something out or solve a problem that has no solution, this burns us out mentally and energetically. It can also cause headaches and migraines. I know this from first-hand experience. 

How to Avoid Overthinking
There are two ways to get out of the overthinking cycle. 

1) decide on an action to take in the moment. Taking some type of action takes the pressure off and makes us feel less out of control of the situation. 

2) realize we are overthinking something and decide to put the issue on the back burner till we get clarity. This takes the pressure off and I'm all about taking the pressure off. In fact, I have a sticky note on my kitchen cabinet that reads "Take the pressure off." 

I know this is tough, but we are not in control of the when the answers will come.  We need to learn to trust in God to reveal them in HIS timing, not ours. It's another opportunity to practice letting go.

Exercise Your Faith

Another example I had to deal with last year was what to do about my 94 yr old mother who fractured her back. Without going into all the details, there were a lot of factors to consider, as anyone who has elderly parents knows. I assured my sister and my mother, who were both freaking out, that we would figure it out slowly. I kept saying "Let's stay in today" to calm them down.

Actually, I am pretty proud of myself that I did stay so composed and in the moment and did not freak out. I trusted that God would show us the way and he did. She went to rehab which she hated and then I found her an assisted living facility that served her chocolate cake the first day she got there. Her comment was "I should have done this years ago." It is in these types of critical, stressful situations that Faith and a spiritual practice pays off, friends. A spiritual practice helps us to not freak out when uncertainty hits and answers are complicated because we have a God who cares. 

Practice Mindfulness Daily
The natural state of our mind is to be peaceful but there are so many things to worry/stress/think about in every day life. Scripture exhorts us to "take every thought captive" (2 Cor 10:5). This means to pay attention to what we're thinking about. Our thoughts can take us down the proverbial rabbit hole if we don't learn how to be mindful and take control of them.   

The good news is practicing mindfulness helps us to be more aware of our thoughts and our emotions. We need to catch ourselves ruminating or dwelling on negative topics and bring ourselves back to the present moment, the here and now, because that is where JOY is found. Joy is not found in yesterday or tomorrow, folks. 

By practicing spiritual techniques (Check out my new ebook, "Ignite the Power Within: 10 Steps to Supercharge Your Spiritual Growth), slowly, the grooves in our brains will be rewired and we will have better thinking patterns over time.

No matter what thoughts pop into my head, I remind myself of the truths I believe in. "Lord, I know you see this situation. It might not look good to me right now, but your word says you work all things out for my good. I will take responsibility for my thoughts, decisions, and actions. I will stay in peace and trust you to guide me. I will rejoice and be glad today. I will take care of myself and set firm boundaries. Thank you, Lord." This helps strengthen my spiritual muscle and keeps my peace and joy. 

Tip #5: Have some fun. 
As a single parent of two growing boys for many years combined with a full-time career plus grad school, it was hard to find time to have fun. Even now as an older single lady with few friends, it is hard to find time to have fun. Now I will admit having fun has changed over the years. I used to love to go ballroom dancing, or any kind of dancing for that matter. Now fun is enjoying the pool, working on my blog or my lettering, making a good dinner. Fun is something you choose to do that is pleasurable that keeps you in the present moment and joy is found in the present moment. Having fun makes room for joy to percolate up. 

Keep Play in the Picture 
No matter how busy we might be, however, play is vital to our well-being. (See #5 in my recent book "Take Back Your Life". )  Some of us, including me, are so responsible, we have to schedule downtime and play into our to-do lists. As I write this I am thinking when was the last time I played...does watching a soccer game fall into the play category? I think so. 

Others play too much and neglect their responsibilities as well as their health. We need to find balance in our daily lives if we want to keep our joy. Having fun makes room for joy to pop back up because it lets the pressure out of the pot. 

What do you like to do? What takes your mind off your problems and brings you into the present moment? Choose a healthy activity that will restore and energize you, instead of depleting you or taking you out of the present moment like watching the boob tube or playing video games. Something out of doors is always good this time of year.  Walking is a great way to let go of stress and get a bit of exercise and fresh air. Team up with a friend or loved one if you can. Or maybe go for a bike ride, or do some gardening. Even a half hour will do you a world of good and help you clear your mind and reconnect with your joy.  

Tip #6: Let go of control. 
We all like to be in control. My issue stems from being raised in a chaotic home, where everything was out of control, but most of us want to be "in control" to some degree. The truth is there are only a handful of things that are truly under our control. Much of life - aka other people - are not and the sooner we come to understand this, the more peace and less stress we will have.  

Do what you can to attend to any given situation (if you need to) and then give it to God. Notice we have a part in fixing our problems. We can't just throw up our hands and say "Well, God will take care of it." When we do what we can, God will do what we can't. This is where faith, patience and obedience come in. 

If you want more peace in your daily life, learn how and when to let go. I talk about all the ins and outs of letting go of control in my new book, "Ignite the Power Within." Letting go is a spiritual practice and if you don't know what it is, how it applies to your life, or how to do it, I encourage you to order my new book and learn more today.

So there you have my 6 tips to getting your joy back.  
Stuff will ALWAYS keep coming at us. As author, Sonia Choquette says in her book "Soul Lessons and Soul Purpose", "We are souls on a journey to heal, grow and evolve and these trials are our tests to pass".  It is up to us to decide how each situation will affect us and how we will respond to it. The quicker we can let go of unhappy, negative thoughts, and focus on gratitude, peace, and joy, the more we can relish each day.

Reflection:
How about you? Is there something or someone stealing your joy right now? Are you feeling overwhelmed with all your responsibilities? What changes do you need to make to have more peace and joy? Don't let the challenges of life steal either one. Make a decision to let go of control and enjoy each day for the gift it is. That's why they call it "the present".

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Until next time, keep smiling and keep looking up!

Ariel Paz 

6 Easy Ways to Get Your Joy Back - Part 1

We all have tough days, weeks, sometimes months. Job stress, no time to exercise, family responsibilities or perhaps a run in with a loved one can all cause us to lose our peace and our joy. I can relate. So many things can happen in the course of any given day that can steal our joy, if we allow them to. It is important to be mindful of how and what we are feeling in the present moment and then take constructive steps to deal with the issue so we can get our joy back. 

We are meant to live vibrant, joyful, energetic lives, no matter what age we are. Now that is not fantasy nor is it unrealistic. Sure, we all have down days, but the key is to have less of them. So this week, I'm sharing the first 3 out of 6 strategies I use to maintain my joy but first, a recent personal anecdote you may relate to and how I handled it. 

Personal Story:  

So I did not hear from my son over the Easter holiday. Not a card, not a phone call. Not even a text message. I was disappointed and hurt and I felt it. It was a choice to say nothing or to say something. So rather than stew for days, I decided to email him (a non-invasive method) and express my feelings. He has a lot going on right now and apologized. He also thanked me for sharing my feelings. Wow.

This courageous act of sending an honest email opened up the lines of communication. And my joy returned! I don't like feeling upset or angry at someone so I try my best to clear the air as soon as possible. The Bible says "Do not let the sun go down on your anger." (Eph 4:26 - 32)

Awareness is Key 

Most people are not aware of how their actions - or non-action - may hurt you. They are too wrapped up in their own lives and problems to think about you. It is up to us to let people know how we are feeling. People are not mind-readers so don't expect them to be. It is up to us to teach people how we want to be treated. If the other person cares about you, honest communication will get the issue out in the open and help clear the air. 

The key is to be more aware of what things are stressing us out and do something about them before we go Kaboom or take it out on other people! Anger management - or the lack thereof - is a huge problem in our world today. Just watch the evening news.  

So here are the first 3 tips on how to try to keep our joy on an everyday basis:

1. Realize you have lost your joy. 
If we're not careful we can become glum and not even realize it. Look in the mirror. Are you smiling? Humming? Or am I ruminating on some situation or person? Am I staying in too much? Sleeping too much? Lack energy? We can get so bogged down by the trials of life, we lose our joy, often without realizing it. The question is - are any of these things worth losing my joy over and the answer is NO! 

"But, you don't know what I'm dealing with," some retort. No, I don't but we are all fighting our own battles, no matter what they may be and we are each responsible for managing our own stress levels. 

If you find yourself constantly dumping your woes on others, blaming loved ones, or always finding fault and complaining, you might want to consider getting counseling.  Better Help is an online counseling service you might want to look into to help you through a rough patch. 

2. Step away from the stress.
When we realize we are feeling stressed and overwhelmed, it's time to break the stress cycle and get away mentally. If possible, put some distance between you and the situation or the other person. Agree to take a time-out temporarily. Focus on yourself rather than the frustrating situation. Get a workout in, listen to music, make a nice dinner, get together with friends. Do something that puts you in the "zone". These all help to let the steam out of the pot and give you a break from dealing with the situation or person until emotions have cooled and you are in a better place.

I've learned that when other people are stressed they often take it out on an innocent bystander (usually the person closest to them) and it is best to set a boundary - sooner rather than later - with them to protect our peace and our mental and physical health. I'm still getting practice at this one with my youngest son who pushes my boundaries constantly. 

3. Make time for self-care. 
Self-care is not selfish, I don't care what anyone says. If we don't take good care of ourselves physically, mentally, and spiritually, we are less able mentally and emotionally to deal with others. We have to start with a full bucket. Take a hot Epsom salts bath or go to a steam room or sauna.  Give yourself some quiet time. Polish your nails, gals. Get some exercise and get moving - go for a run, a walk, a hike, bike ride or a swim. Guys, get thee to the gym, go for a bike ride, or hit the golf course.

Exercise moves negative energy out of your body. 

When the pressures and problems of the world crowd in on us, it's time to get alone and get the energy moving out of our bodies,  clear our minds, and then we will be able to listen to that still small voice that gives us guidance when we need it.  

Reflection:

Is there some situation or some person stealing your joy? Can you implement one or more of these tips to feel more joyful today? What can you do to process your emotions and let off steam? 

If this post was helpful and you'd like to join our community and receive my weekly encouraging posts, enter your email address in the box provided. As a thank you, I'll send you my free e-guide entitled "7 Steps to Finding Your Spiritual Path". 

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Stay tuned for the next post in this series when I share the next 3 tips to getting your joy back. Let's help each other ignite the power within!

Until next time, keep looking up!

Ariel Paz

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