Showing posts with label addiction. Show all posts
Showing posts with label addiction. Show all posts

Tuesday, October 25, 2022

7 Simple Strategies to Guarantee Weight Loss - Part 1

The holidays are almost upon us and we all know what that means - parties, sweets, cold weather, and less exercise. I ask the question "Why is every holiday associated with candy?" So in today's post, I am sharing some tips to help us all not put on that extra weight this year, stay healthy, and look our best. 

Did you know more than one third of U.S. adults are obese? Our fast-paced gotta-get-more-done-now lifestyle has led to a deprioritization of mealtimes. We eat on the run, grab a coffee for breakfast, snack on a donut at break, and then take the kids to a fast-food joint for dinner because of jam-packed schedules. Or we exercise like crazy and then think we have free license to eat anything we want.

As we age, excess weight can keep us from doing things we love. It also affects the pocketbook. Did you know medical expenses for obese people are $1429 more per year than for a normal weight person? As a gal who has lost a total of 35 pounds over my lifetime, and kept it off, in this two part series, I am sharing six simple tips I use to help maintain a healthy weight. But first, here's what prompted me to write this post.

Last weekend, I was out with a new girlfriend who is about my age, perhaps a few years younger. If I had to guess, she's probably about thirty pounds or more overweight which puts her into the obese category. I parked the car in the garage and we headed to the main entrance for a night of salsa dancing. As we're walking, she says "Dinner time," and pulls something wrapped in foil out of her purse and begins to chow down. What I wanted to tell her is that this behavior is conducive to weight gain, but I kept my mouth shut. Don't let this be you.

So here we go with my first three tips to help you lose that unhealthy baggage, have more energy, and feel better about yourself.

Tip #1: Eat smaller portions

Everything these days seems to be super-sized, from burgers to televisions. Unless we want our bodies to be super-sized we need to go against the tide and realize bigger is not always better, particularly when it comes to portion sizes. A serving of meat, fish, or chicken should be about the size of our palm, which is about 4 ounces. We want to feel pleasantly full but not stuffed when we finish our meal. Instead of a dinner-size plate, start using the salad plates instead. 

Tip #2: Be more active

Physical activity is even more important as we age. Have done with the excuse about not liking to exercise. There are so many ways to exercise and have fun. One of the easiest and cheapest forms is to take a walk. Walking is a weight-bearing exercise that prevents bone loss.

Put on a pair of supportive shoes and head outside. A brisk 1 - 2 mile walk everyday will do wonders for you. At lunch time, get away from the desk, clear your head, and get some fresh air. If you want more, pick up the pace to a jog. If your joints can take it, jogging is a great cardiovascular exercise that gets the happy hormones, known as endorphins, circulating. You will burn more calories, stoke your metabolism, and strengthen your heart.

Just because we are getting older doesn't mean we have to become sedentary. Don't be a couch potato. Three of my favorite activities are walking, yoga and pilates. Nothing makes me feel better than a good workout. You can also try working out at home with light weights to keep up your bone mass. Biking and swimming are other options but remember they are not weight-bearing so you'll have to incorporate another exercise to keep from losing bone mass.

Do something to get moving every day until it becomes a habit. Not only will your body thank you but your brain will too!

Tip #3: Cut back on unhealthy fats, sugar, and salt.

As an ex-aerobics instructor, I learned about nutrition, diet, and calories. Since those days, however, the dietary guidelines have done an about face. Then it was all about low-fat this and sugar-free that. Since then, we now know more about the dangers of too many carbs and not enough good fats in our diet. Obesity and diabetes have sky-rocketted due to eating too many carbohydrates. The old thinking that fat (cholesterol) causes heart attacks is out the window.

Quick nutrition lesson here. Fats are found mostly in animal products such as meat, dairy, and cheese. They also are in oils, nuts, and seeds. To limit unhealthy saturated fats, avoid fried foods, fast-food, ice cream, pre-made packaged or frozen products, and creamy salad dressings and sauces such as ranch dressing and alfredo sauce. 

Check the labels and notice the number of saturated fat grams per serving. If you're not used to doing this, get ready for a rude awakening. Fat is not the enemy however. Healthy fats such as olive oil, avocado oil, and coconut oil are good for you. The brain is made up of 60% fat, so it needs healthy fats to do its job. Olive oil, coconut oil, sardines, salmon, all contain heart-healthy oils but eat them sparingly. Now let's talk about sugar.

Experts say sugar is our #1 enemy. Sugars come from anything that is not a protein or a fat which include vegetables, fruit, alcohol, bread, cereal, potatoes, grains, cakes, candy, donuts, etc. Sugar wears many disguises so it is important to be aware of where these simple carbohydrates lurk. 

I overheard a woman at the pool the other day comparing lettuce and watermelon. She, too, is overweight. She was talking about how much she loves watermelon. True, lettuce and watermelon are both mostly water, however, watermelon is very high in sugar, rating 72 out of 100 on the glycemic index. So if you're downing it in large quantities, remember the body still needs to produce insulin to digest fruit sugars the same as the sugar in cakes and cookies. Some other sources of sugar you might not be aware of are alcohol, dried fruit such as raisens, figs, dates, and some energy drinks. Eating too many carbohydrates can lead to diabetes and obesity. Now let's talk about salt.

The average American consumes too much salt.  Packaged and pre-made foods are loaded with salt aka sodium. Most restaurants over-salt foods. Why? Because salt, like sugar, makes you want to eat more. Ever stopped at half a bag of popcorn at the movies? Not me. Too much salt contributes to high blood pressure and our blood pressure naturally goes up as we age. It can also cause bouts of dizziness.

Instead of using salt to flavor food, I have a whole selection of herbs and spices. Fresh parsley, ginger, dill, onion, and garlic are potent anti-inflammatory seasonings and packed full of vitamins and good stuff. Salt like sugar is a habit.

Our taste buds become accustomed to sweet and salty foods, but they can be retrained. Use lemon and lime to flavor fish and meat. I like Herbes de Provence. If you are in the habit of salting your food before you taste it, stop putting the salt and pepper shaker on the dinner table. You'll get tired of getting up to get it and soon break the habit.

For Reflection
What health concern would you like to conquer? Which one of these tips will you apply this week? Do write and let me know how it goes for you. Stay tuned for part 2 next week when I'll share the next 3 practical tips to help you beat the battle of the bulge. 

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Ariel Paz

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Tuesday, September 28, 2021

Ignite the Power Within Step 3:8 Tips for Breaking a Bad Habit

Bad habits. We all have them. Don't kid yourself that your seemingly perfect friend is flawless. She has hers too. Habits are tough to break, for sure, but they can be broken.  Today, in our continuing series on transformation, we'll talk about how changing our thinking and learning to let go can help us transform our lives.

Where do bad habits start?
Bad habits often come from a poor self-image. 
Some bad habits include over-eating, getting high, drinking or shopping to excess, biting one's nails, picking one's skin, etc. The list goes on and on. The media overemphasizes being thin, having long luxurious hair and a porcelain complexion. It is important to realize these are all just mind games to make us spend our money on their products. Being super-model thin, having extra long lashes or a peaches and cream complexion is not going to make us a better person but our society has been conditioned to place a high value on the superficial. True beauty comes from within a person, not what's on the outside. 


No matter how long we have had the habit, it is possible to break it. We have probably had them for quite a while so be patient with yourself. Here are some steps I am using to break one of my bad habits.

1. Make a decision to let it go.
All change starts with a decision and a change of mind. We must decide we are no longer going to tolerate a certain behavior and that we are going to make geting rid of it a top priority. It is hard to tackle a bad habit when we are busy focused on other things.  

2. Bring more awareness to the habit.
Instead of pretending it is not a problem, really focus on when you engage in the habit. As we said before, practice mindfulness. Be more aware of how often you do the behavior. It helps to write down when we engage in the behavior AND how we are feeling at the time. This helps bring the unconscious into the conscious. Keeping a log or a journal is great for bringing habits into awareness. 

3. Notice how you're feeling.
Emotions and stress have a lot to do with bad habits. We reach for the ice cream, the mac and cheese,  the chocolate or the glass of wine when we're feeling stressed and need comforting. Feeling our feelings is vital to connecting the dots and making positive changes. When we ignore our feelings, we fall back in the same negative patterns. Respect your feelings and give them the attention they are asking for.   

4. Substitute positive behaviors for the negative behavior. 
For example, instead of having that piece of cake or cookie, pick up a piece of fruit or go for a walk. Sip a glass of lemon water or hot herbal tea instead of alcohol. Stop yourself before you engage in the behavior by counting to 6 slowly. Then ask yourself if you really want whatever it is. If you do, go ahead and indulge and don't feel guilty. You are making a conscious choice and that is part of breaking the habit loop.

5. Be patient with yourself. 
Most bad habits took years to develop. Changing them isn't going to happen overnight and there will be setbacks. Forgive yourself, understand what caused the setback, and start again. Whatever you do, don't beat yourself up. That only enforces the behavior. Remember - tomorrow is a new day.

6. Develop a support system. 
Yes, I know it is embarassing to share your flaws with another person but we need support. Find someone you can trust and confide in them. Use the buddy system. Have them tell you something they want to work on and you can be the support for them and vice versa.  Don't try to go it alone.

7. Manage the stress. 
Stress makes us more prone to give in to bad habits: having that extra glass of wine, going back for seconds, chugging the beer, and heading for the bathroom mirror. When we are stressed, we have less self-control. We tell ourselves things like "I worked hard all week. I deserve this." What we deserve is to take better care of ourselves and to treat ourselves and our bodies with respect.

8. Watch the self-talk. 
Habits develop over time. We have internal dialogues that we might not even be aware of that perpetuate bad habits. For example, we might think "I ought to have perfectly thin thighs. But because I don't, I'm fat and ugly". Or "I can't put on a swimsuit because of these thighs." Men do the same thing. How many times have you seen a man wearing a cap on and when he takes it off, he is bald. Don't they know bald is sexy? These types of negative thinking patterns distort the truth about ourselves. We don't have to have perfectly thin or clear anything. We don't need a full head of hair to be loveable. We need to love ourselves exactly as we are while we are working on improving. Self-love and acceptance are crucial to making changes.

So there you have my 8 tips for breaking a bad habit. Give them a try and hang in there. You are not alone. We all have habits to break. When we make taking better care of ourselves a priority, we will see progress.

For Reflection 
What habit would you like to get rid of? Will you make a decision to make changing a priority? What are you saying to yourself about your habit? 

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This wraps up our series on transformation. I hope you enjoyed it. As the busy season and the flu season ramp up, the topic for October will be on staying well and healthy as we prepare for the holiday season. We'll talk about health, flu prevention, sleep, and maybe some Ayurvedic philosophies thrown in. Do tune in! 

Keep looking up!

Ariel Paz






Tuesday, May 28, 2019

How to Raise Your Energetic Vibration

How is your energy level these days?  Do you feel joy on a regular if not daily basis? Do you get up in the morning feeling energetic and looking forward to the day? Or are you often lethargic, low on energy and just ant to pull the covers over your head? Well, today is the day we conquer this once and for all. We can control what is apparently controlling us, so we can be our authentic, joyful selves and live in freedom and service to others.

Our emotions have a lot to do with our energy and joy levels. 
Many people are in bondage to their emotions and don't realize it. They let their emotions control them instead of the other way around.  What we often don't realize is that our emotions are a result of our thoughts!

When I am feeling down, I stop and ask myself  "What am I ruminating on?" There is usually some theme that I am dwelling on. Therein lies the problem. Our thoughts can make us feel less than and inferior instead of the adored children of God that we are. We start comparing ourselves to other people. We think doom and gloom and such thoughts as:

"I'm depressed."
"I feel fat."
"Nobody cares about me."
"I'm old."

Can you relate?

As a young woman, I had very low self-esteem due to my weight problem which was due to being taught to ignore my feelings. My father was an alcoholic and both he and my mom were super-critical, always expecting perfection. I overate to comfort myself.  I shied away from the opposite sex thinking I was unattractive and I was afraid to speak up for myself. Perhaps you can relate.

Many of us have low self-esteem which causes us to stay in unhealthy and unhappy relationships. We develop addictions such as overeating, shopping, overwork, over exercising, to comfort and soothe us.  We develop negative thought patterns, fears, and anxieties which then lead to physical illness. We cannot be truly free until we face our inner demons. 

Let's define bondage. Other words for bondage are subjugation, slavery, yoke, chains, captivity, duress. The opposite of bondage is freedom and independence. Freedom to enjoy our lives, freedom to make our own decisions, freedom to choose healthy habits and freedom to live in peace and prosperity and then to become a blessing and to be of service to others.




So, how do we know we are in emotional or mental bondage? Here are some signs:

1. We constantly fret, worry or ruminate over a situation or a relationship.
2. We react emotionally when our buttons are pushed instead of looking within.
3. We are unable to resolve conflict in a healthy and timely manner
4. We have weak boundaries
5. We don't respect ourselves enough
6. We lack a sense of joy and energy on a daily basis
7. Our happiness depends on external circumstances
8. We are not moving forward in a particular area of life
9. We lack a sense of purpose and fulfillment
10. We feel stuck in life.

Do any of these resonate with you? Freedom from bondage starts with our thinking.  It starts by realizing the thought patterns and attitudes that are holding us back and making a conscious decision to change the lens through which we perceive the events of life. There is always another way to see things. There is a silver lining to every dark cloud, no matter how dark it may seem.

Positive thoughts raise our energetic vibration and negative thoughts lower it. We attract what we think about. If we want positive people in our lives, we need to be postive. Like attracts like. The reverse is also true. If you want to have more joy, more energy and feel more alive, start catching yourself thinking. When you find you are dwelling on something negative, REBOOT!

When I wake up in the morning, I repeat this verse first thing: "This is the day that the Lord has made. I will rejoice and be glad in it". (Ps. 118:24). I make a conscious choice to enjoy my day. I also put on the "shoes of peace", to remind me not to let anyone or anything steal my peace and to be kind and humble when dealing with others. I encourage you to develop your own spiritual morning routine to preprogram your day.

You can control your energetic vibration and it starts with thinking positive thoughts and taking control of your emotions. We can choose to see the glass half-full or half-empty. It is a choice we make every day, every minute of our lives. Don't get older and grumpier. Be like fine wine which matures, gets more mellow and more enjoyable as it ages.

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Ariel Paz 

Wednesday, June 21, 2017

The Lure of Addiction: How to Understand and Help

Do you know someone who struggles with addiction? Perhaps you do. The truth is many of us struggle with addiction to one degree or another. It could be drugs or alcohol, smoking or gambling. It could be overeating, overworking, perfectionism or overachieving. These are all forms of addictions - trying to get a need met in an unhealthy and excessive way. Today we will dive into this relevant and painful subject to understand why people get addicted and what to do about it.

We all need connection and to feel loved, valued, and appreciated, yet many do not. There are a multitude of reasons for this disconnection, such as divorce, the breakdown of the family unit, the need to succeed, and the fast pace of life, to name a few. It takes time and effort to connect to others.

Divorce has divided many families, including my own. Kids feel ignored, unloved, and guilty so they turn to substances such as drugs and alcohol to fill that ache in their hearts. Others turn to abusive relationships to fill that need.

This growing number begs the question - why are so many addicted?

Recently on an Oprah radio, I heard a short part of a dialogue between Russell Brand and Oprah. Russell Brand is a British comedian who was briefly married to the pop music star, Katy Perry. Oprah asked the question if one can ever get over an addiction like to drugs or sex and Russell made a statement that really got me to thinking. It went something like this.

"Addicts are usually very sensitive people who realize they are not connected spiritually and are looking for that feeling from the addictive substance or behavior."

Kind of puts a different spin on the whole addiction thing.  Human beings are made with an internal desire to be connected not only to other people but also to God. We are spiritual beings living in a human body but some fail to recognize this need.

Perhaps you've had an experience with an addict or an addiction, or know someone who does. They are usually very lovable, attractive, seductive, and charming personalities. They make you laugh and they make you cry. But deep down inside, like so many of us, they are hurting and they usually don't know why. So they seek solace and connection in something or someone that temporarily comforts their souls.

Addiction comes in many forms. Some choose alcohol. Others choose smoking, drugs, food, gambling, sex, work, exercise, approval. The list goes on and on. In fact, anything done to excess can be an addiction. And that includes relationships as well. Nothing, not even a relationship, is meant to be a substitute for God.

We all have a spiritual need, a void, a hunger deep down inside. God made us that way; to long for connection. We try and fill this need with so many different things, but only one person will truly fulfill that desire and He is God. Sooner or later most of us come to this realization, usually after we hit rock bottom in one or many areas of our lives. Even the wisest man on earth, King Solomon, came to this conclusion when he said:

"Meaningless! Utterly meaningless! Everything is meaningless!" (Ecclesiastes 1:2).

Have you been deeply hurt in the past and look to substances, activities, or people to fill that loneliness and cover the pain?  Today is the day to get to know God. He  wants you to be healed and whole. As I say in my book, "The Power of Faith",  "When we are ready to meet God, He is ready to meet us."

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Ariel